Chapter 4 covers a range of topics that tie together in some way, somehow. In the beginning you read about how sexuality comes to be and the structures within the broad topic. Guidelines for how we are supposed to feel and act as sexual persons is introduced ( sexual scripts). You go on to learn the politics of sexuality or “issues associated with the distribution of power in relationships.” Experiences of the inconveniences and unfair hardships that people in the lgbt community come across are talked about. An example given would be a female living in an area where being a lesbian is illegal, and going through such lengths as to live as men who are allowed to marry women. How intimacies are differed between sexes is discussed and how sexual scripts for men tend to involve more of an instrumental (sex for its own sake) approach, whereas for women it tends to be more expressive (sex involving emotional attachments). “Gender is a learned performance that shapes the experiences of intimacy in any given setting.” Virginity its close meaning to girls and women are talked about and learn that the term is given to girls and that no such term exists for men or boys. Our society has “ethics of passivity” and puts a great value on what it means to be a virgin. “We are more defined by what we don’t do.” Romance: Sweet Love talks about the essentials needed for love and relationships, and the feminine characteristics of romance compared to the masculine traits and meaning. Towards the end of the chapter bisexuality is mentioned and when the term was coined, how it came about, and gives you more insight on the term than a dictionary would.
I feel like the TEDD talk video that I chose does a really good job of covering the virginity aspect as well as how sexual scripts play a role in the topic. Dannah Gresh talks about sexual tolerance and what it means for some males but mainly females. While she fits the feminine sexual script perfectly she takes on a different perspective than chapter four on the intimacy linked to it. She suggests that “maybe the bondages formed from the release of oxytocin play a role in how we become attached to the person we have intercourse with or lose our “virginity”." Your body makes a choice even though you may not, is what she is getting at. Although Dana mentioned “the guy’s stereotype” it is not a man’s point of view so the video is naturally somewhat biased to fit the way virginity is seen through the eyes of a female.
I found chapter four very interesting, and also the Sigmund Freud might have been a bisexual. When you learn about him in biology or psychology you do not learn that it was one of his topics of study. After reading the chapter and watching the TEDD video I started to think about all of the different ways virginity, romance, love, and relationships are portrayed through the media. T.V now a day is so much more revealing and vulgar than it was 40 years ago. A majority of the shows on T.V ,especially reality shows reflect an image of partying and sex. While these shows portray these as normal and okay things they are from what love or romance is. Although we know the aspects of a good relationship, there is little focus on determining if we are “in perfect passion or perfect love”. “We fail at romantic love when we have not learned the art of loving” was a line in the Romance section of chapter four and if one is never taught the art to love, how can one not fail at a romantic love. There are so many perspectives to take on romance, love, and intimacy but that’s because we all have different ways of expressing our feelings and love. Maybe you can’t put a label on everything.
Gresh,D. (2013,April 19). Dana Gresh: The Walk of Fame Vs The walk Of Shame.
[video file received from TEDD Talk]
I feel like the TEDD talk video that I chose does a really good job of covering the virginity aspect as well as how sexual scripts play a role in the topic. Dannah Gresh talks about sexual tolerance and what it means for some males but mainly females. While she fits the feminine sexual script perfectly she takes on a different perspective than chapter four on the intimacy linked to it. She suggests that “maybe the bondages formed from the release of oxytocin play a role in how we become attached to the person we have intercourse with or lose our “virginity”." Your body makes a choice even though you may not, is what she is getting at. Although Dana mentioned “the guy’s stereotype” it is not a man’s point of view so the video is naturally somewhat biased to fit the way virginity is seen through the eyes of a female.
I found chapter four very interesting, and also the Sigmund Freud might have been a bisexual. When you learn about him in biology or psychology you do not learn that it was one of his topics of study. After reading the chapter and watching the TEDD video I started to think about all of the different ways virginity, romance, love, and relationships are portrayed through the media. T.V now a day is so much more revealing and vulgar than it was 40 years ago. A majority of the shows on T.V ,especially reality shows reflect an image of partying and sex. While these shows portray these as normal and okay things they are from what love or romance is. Although we know the aspects of a good relationship, there is little focus on determining if we are “in perfect passion or perfect love”. “We fail at romantic love when we have not learned the art of loving” was a line in the Romance section of chapter four and if one is never taught the art to love, how can one not fail at a romantic love. There are so many perspectives to take on romance, love, and intimacy but that’s because we all have different ways of expressing our feelings and love. Maybe you can’t put a label on everything.
Gresh,D. (2013,April 19). Dana Gresh: The Walk of Fame Vs The walk Of Shame.
[video file received from TEDD Talk]